Nurturing Positive Attachments with Firmness and Love

In the last parent meeting, we explored Nurturing Positive Attachments with Firmness and Love.

What is an attachment bond?

An attachment bond is the emotional connection formed by non-verbal. This bond forms easiest at infancy, though can happen and heal at any point in our life. The quality of this bond impacts mental, physical, intellectual and social development

How is this bond formed?


A secure attachment is forged through non-verbal cues such as tone of voice, quality of touch, facial expression, eye contact, body language, and how our adult pacing, timing, and intensity matches the needs of the infant.

Humans, from the onset, need to belong, to feel their needs met, to be understood, and attuned to. This need informs the infant and child’s brain and nervous system’s development which informs the emotional, mental, and physical development, and also impacts relationship forming patterns later in life.

There are important differences between love and care taking and forming a secure bond. Love and care taking include acts such as feeding, diapering, bathing, and singing to infants. A secure attachment bond occurs when we attune to the expressions of the infant or child in the moment. This can by done by mirroring a sad facial expression, slowing down, offering a hug, and being calm and centered enough in our adult experience to be able to register the expressed needs of the infant or child.

What is firmness?

Firmness is not anger or domination, rather, it is the setting of limits and expresses an adult’s own actions. Some examples:

  • I will wait until your body is ready.

  • I am going to walk away.

  • When you run into the street, it shows me we need to hold hands. Do you want to walk?

When a child experiences limits, they feel safer for knowing what the boundaries and expectations are. Without limits, it is the task of the child to experiment and test to see how far they can go. When one parents from anger or domination, a child learns to stop undesired behavior at the moment anger arises. Firm limits can prevent this.

Firmness demonstrates mutual respect for it respects a child’s right to choose what to do and it respects the adult capacity to respond to a child, but not be placed at the mercy of a child.

Clear limits and boundaries support family attachments with all family members knowing what is expected, rather than the alternative of feeling “told what to do.”

Here is a link to an article on Kindness and Firmness at the Same Time from a Positive Discipline lens. Here are a list of Positive Discipline strategies to test out with loving firmness: Positive Discipline Strategies.

Read the Parent Handout from the meeting for more insight into recovery, how to bond, and what motivates children’s behavior and need for consistent boundary setting.

Girls in Real Life vs. Children’s Books

“I DID THE MONKEY BARS ALL THE WAY TO THE END!” was loudly broadcasted through my cell phone from my five-year old niece on a Sunday afternoon two Septembers ago. During a recent trip to visit my sister’s family, I went with them to the local public elementary school to register her children, my niece and her two older brothers, for the new school year. While their parents navigated the long lines outside of the school, I took the kids to the adjacent playground where within seconds I promptly lost all of them. Realizing my nephews had found their friends from the prior school year, I searched for my niece who did not yet have an established friend circle as an incoming kindergarten student. I spotted her eyeing the monkey bars.

 I encouraged her to give it a try. She grasped the first bar with both hands, swung her right arm to the first bar, then the left arm, balancing strength with physical and mental momentum. By the third monkey bar, she lost that momentum, dropped to the ground, and repeated this process five times, never making it to the end. When we got home, I decided to take this opportunity to have a conversation with her about how proud I was of her determination. The means of the conversation was letting her in on a “top secret” preview of my children’s book manuscript.


 In my book, Nina the Neighborhood Ninja, the lead character is a young girl of color who is a superhero by using everyday powers of being smart, strong, and speedy. She takes charge by using her brains and muscles to solve problems. With creativity and determination, she makes it through a long and tiring day of mastering rescue missions. Usually, this storyline is centered on a male character. I wanted to put a female character front in center of a superhero adventure narrative to fill a void that is still quite prevalent. Even while half the United States is female, they are only included in less than half of children’s books. For example, less than a quarter of the “best children’s books of all time” are about a female character ( Even the comic industry in enjoyed by an audience that is split almost evenly between males and females, yet only a third of DC Universe and Marvel characters are female.

It was a disappointing realization that girls like my niece, are excluded from the fun and adventurous storylines where they get to be the one saving the day. The thing that would strike me over and over again was that I see girls like my niece all the time in real life. We all know them. These are the little girls that embody the same superhero and adventurous traits we see in little boys. The question I could not figure out, was that why do we continue to only see boys in books portraying those traits, but not girls?

If education is meant to be a social equalizer as Horace Mann famously stated, and we use books to educate children, then what are we in fact teaching children about their values and roles in society when we exclude a large portion of our population? On the shelves of children’s bookstores, it is very clear to see that stories confine both boys and girls to ideas who they can be and what they can accomplish. My goal in writing the book was that all children see themselves in books, validating their value in society. No longer should little boys and girls have to be given a limited image of what a hero is, but knowing that anyone can be a superhero, regardless of age, race, ethnicity, or gender. It was with this sense of inequity that I decided to create Nina the Neighborhood Ninja.

At the end of my story, the young reader is asked, “Are you smart? Are you strong? Are you speedy?” This is a prompt for the adult and child to discuss their own superpowers. True to what I expected, girls are not taught that they are strong, so they do not know how to answer this specific question. I tested it out on my niece. “Are you strong?” There’s a pause, and then a quiet, “No.” I explained, “Yes you are. I saw you on that playground today and you tried to do the monkey bars FIVE times. Just the fact you tried makes you strong.” She didn’t say anything, but her mind was working. Little did I know, she spent her first two weeks during recess mastering the monkey bars. When she saw my name on her mother’s phone, she grabbed it and answered it with “I DID THE MONKEY BARS ALL THE WAY TO THE END!” I replied, “Wow!!! That’s awesome! What did you do when you reached the end? Did you do a happy dance?” She replied, “No. I just did them again.“


My 5-year old niece drawing herself doing something strong as evidenced by mastering the monkey bars.



Author Sonia Panigrahy (Pah-Nee-Grah-Hee), is a public health professional, world traveler, adventure seeker, and fitness enthusiast. Her motto is that life is too short to be bored! 

Nina the Neighborhood Ninja was created out of Sonia's lifelong love of reading. As her family and friends begin to have children, she looked forward to sharing this love with them. She believes that books are a powerful way to empower impressionable young minds. 

Sonia was surprised that she could not find books for kids ages 3-6 years that realistically identified females as intelligent, physically tough, brave, and adventurous. She was disappointed that girls continue to be excluded from the heart of the superhero story. 

After unsuccessful attempts to find a young girl superhero protagonist on the pages of a book, especially one of color, she gave up. Then she created her own.


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On Tuesday, November 27th,

  1. Visit @benevity on Twitter

  2. Look for #GivingTuesday video tweet (hint, it’s pinned to the page).

  3. Click the “retweet” icon

  4. In the comment section, type in @NiaHouse1974 & hashtag #BeTheGood, plus any note you’d like to include. (You’ve earned Nia House $10!)

  5. Pat yourself on the back! You’re part of the good in the world.

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Silicon Valley Bank & Soccer at Nia House

The Silicon Valley Bank made a generous donation to Nia House.

The Silicon Valley Bank’s grant brings accessibility and opportunity to the children and families of Nia House.  

We are grateful to receive this money, gifted to Nia House for our role as an organization that supports the economic sustainability of low and moderate income families by offering full day and year round child care through our scholarship program. Nia House provided scholarships for more than 41% of the students, offering children and families in the amount of $313,205 in the 2017-18 year. 

Nia House enables adults in our community to pursue education, maintain employment, and become educational advocates for their children. Children, ages 18 months to six years, benefit with the tools to develop age-appropriate, healthy learning habits in a safe environment with loving care. 

Nia House is using The Silicon Valley Bank’s grant to fund access for all children to participate in soccer programming. Local small business partner, Soccer2gether, sends two coaches each week to work with our children as they develop basic motor skills, soccer fundamentals, self-confidence, the virtues of teamwork and cooperation, and the health and physical developmental benefits of activity.

The Washington Post reports,

For the third consecutive year, children from low-income households were half as likely to play a significant amount of team sports as children from households earning at least $100,000, the report shows. They were also three times as likely to be physically inactive.

The troubling data is part of youth sports and public health advocates’ generational crusade against childhood obesity and inactivity…

‘If we’re really looking at being a more inclusive and healthier society, we should probably get these kids playing together more out on the field — everybody, not just certain populations that can afford it.’  
— Bogag, Jacob. “Youth sports still struggling with dropping participation, high costs and bad coaches, study finds.” The Washington Post. 16 October 2018.

Thank you, Silicon Valley Bank, for this wonderful opportunity for the children at Nia House! We are grateful for The Silicon Valley Bank’s commitment to the education and economic viability of traditionally underserved communities. 


Donation Drive for Bay Area Border Relief

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Through the organization Bay Area Border Relief, we will be organizing donations to go to families released from immigrant detention, many of whom have been separated from their children, in Texas. Adults and children as young as infants are stripped of everything (even the laces on their shoes) when apprehended crossing the border (most of these individuals are fleeing extreme violence in Central America). When they are released to be reunited with relatives somewhere in the US while they undergo proceedings for their asylum cases, they have absolutely nothing and have not been able to shower for days.  A group of professors and students from the University of San Francisco have been working with a local humanitarian center in Brownsville, Texas and are taking a truck of supplies immediately after the thanksgiving holiday.

We are inviting Nia families to donate items, money, cards or time towards these efforts. 



On Saturday November 17, from 2-4p, there will be a parents only work time to assemble the toiletry kits and activity bags, and sort the donated items into bags for delivering to the organizers. 


If you would like to donate new or gently used items, here is a list of what’s needed: 

- sweatshirts and t-shirts (any kids sizes or adult small or medium)

-small blankets 

- backpacks 

- gloves, hats, jackets 

- gift cards 


If you would like to donate money, we will use it to purchase items to make toiletry kits and activity bags for the children. Money can be donated by leaving it in an envelope in the office at Nia House or via Venmo to @Monisha-Bajaj. Please send any donations by November 5 so we can best estimate how many kits/bags we can make. 

Greeting Cards:

We would like to add cards of welcome for the children in their activity bags so if you’d like to have your child make cards with words of “welcome” “bienvenidos” or other kind messages of love and hope, please bring them to the office at Nia house by November 15. 

45+ Children’s Books about South Asian History and Culture 

Thank you, Monisha, for another spectacular review centering South Asian children’s literature. You introduce important, beautiful, and empowering narratives for our children.

by Monisha Bajaj

Books offer both a “window” into the realities of others, and a “mirror” to see our own realities reflected (a metaphor coined by Emily Style in 1988). The diversity gap in children’s books has been widely noted: while people of color make up nearly 40% of the U.S. population, in an analysis of children’s literature published over the past 25 years, just 13% of books contained multicultural or global content (from Lee & Low Books).  

One in four of the world’s people live in South Asia, a region with nearly two billion people and made up of the following countries: Afghanistan, Bangladesh, Bhutan, India, Maldives, Nepal, Pakistan, and Sri Lanka. South Asians have diverse nationalities, religions, cultures, histories, and ways of life (downloadable map here). Through migration starting hundreds of years ago and continuing to the present-day, South Asian communities can now be found in North America, Europe, Australia, the Middle East, sub-Saharan Africa, East Asia, the Pacific Islands, and in Latin America and the Caribbean.

For families with South Asian heritage, there are more options than ever before, with books featuring brown-skinned characters doing everyday activities in the U.S. (e.g., Nina the Neighborhood Ninja and Super Satya Saves the Day ), as well as books about specific food, dress, and culture in distinct regions and countries of origin.

Parents and families play an important role in bringing cultural and historical knowledge to schools where gaps exist, and fostering a sense of global citizenship in their children. Fall is a time when there are several occasions for parents and educators to explore South Asian history and culture, including: the Independence days for Afghanistan (August 9), Pakistan (August 14), India (August 15) and later in the year, Nepal (December 21); the Hindu, Sikh, Buddhist, and Jain festivals of Diwali, Bandi Chhor Divas & Paryushan (usually in October or November based on the lunar calendar); the Nepali Dashain festival (usually in October); sometimes, the Muslim festivals of Eid (depending on the Islamic calendar and where it falls); and the birthdays of independence leaders Mohandas Gandhi (October 2) and Jawaharlal Nehru (November 14, also known as Children’s Day in India).

Spring can also be a good time to introduce different themes related to the Sikh holiday of Vaisakhi, the Zoroastrian & Baha’i holiday of Norooz, the Hindu Holi festival (all of which are usually in March or April based on the lunar calendar); Vesak which celebrates the Buddha’s birthday (usually in May); and Bangladesh’s independence day (March 26), among other holidays.

Basically, regardless of the occasion or time of year, there’s always a way to bring South Asian culture and history to the classroom!  

Below is a list of books—focused primarily on ages 3 to 8 years old—to introduce South Asian history and culture to young children whether as a “window” into other global realities or as a “mirror” for students with South Asian heritage. At the end is also a list of recommended books for children aged 10-12 and above. This is not an exhaustive list and is heavy on books about India given the fact that it has a vibrant local publishing industry. Please add your own recommendations in the comments below to make this resource list more thorough. And talk to your local library and school staff about your ideas for making their book collections more diverse and representative.

As a professor of education and a parent, it’s encouraging to see the growth in diverse children’s publishing, and the increasing possibilities these books bring for understanding, awareness, and inclusion.  

A great resource for finding most of these books listed below is the online book-seller KitaabWorld. Special thanks to KitaabWorld’s founders, Gauri Manglik & Sadaf Siddique, for their suggestions and insights on this post.

Struggles for Justice  

1. I Will Save the Land, by Rinchin (Author) and Sagar Kolwankar (Illustrator)

This book about a young Adivasi (indigenous) girl in the Chhattisgarh state of India shows how big development displaces families, and one girl’s struggle to resist. Book trailer here.  

2. Books about Mohandas Gandhi

These books introduce children to issues of colonialism, the struggle for independence, and Gandhi’s leadership in the subcontinent’s freedom movement.

2a. A Taste of Freedom: Gandhi and the Great Salt March, by Elizabeth Cody Kimmel (Author), Giuliano Ferri (Illustrator)

2b. Grandfather Gandhi, by Arun Gandhi & Bethany Hegedus (Authors), Evan Turk (Illustrator)

3. The Boy Who Asked Why: The Story of Bhimrao Ambedkar, by Sowmya Rajendran (Author), Satwik Gade (Illustrator)

This book tells the story of Bhimrao Ambedkar, a leading figure in the Indian independence movement and a champion of the rights of Dalits (formerly called “untouchables”) to be free from caste discrimination.

4. Malala, a Brave Girl from Pakistan/Iqbal, a Brave Boy from Pakistan: Two Stories of Bravery, by Jeanette Winter (Author, Illustrator)

This book features two young heroes from Pakistan who stood up for the right to education in their communities and were met with backlash for doing so.

Girl Power/Inspiring Women  

5. Malala’s Magic Pencil, by Malala Yousafzai (Author), Kerascoët (Illustrator)

Written by the youngest-ever Nobel Peace Prize Winner, Malala Yousafzai, about her wish as a child for a magic pencil.

6. Sarla in the Sky, by Anjali Joshi

This book tells the story of India’s first female pilot in a beautifully-drawn book.

7. One Grain Of Rice: A Mathematical Folktale, by Demi (Author)

This book showcases a mathematically talented girl who outsmarts a greedy king who hoards all the rice for himself.  

8. A Pair of Twins, by Kavitha Mandana (Author) and Nayantara Surendranath (Illustrator)

In this beautifully-illustrated story, an unusual “pair” born on the same day are called upon to save the day.

9. Razia and the Pesky Presents, by Natasha Sharma (author)

In this longer book for ages 6 and up, the first female ruler of South Asia from the 13th century, Razia Sultana, is introduced; as is her problem of receiving mystery presents from an unknown source, and her desire to get to the bottom of it.  

10. Nasreen's Secret School: A True Story from Afghanistan, by Jeanette Winter (Author, Illustrator)

In this book, Nasreen’s grandmother enrolls her in a secret school and tells of her experiences there.

11. Mina vs. the Monsoon, by Rukhsanna Guidroz (Author), Debasmita Dasgupta (Illustrator)

This book introduces Mina who is upset that the monsoon rains are getting in the way of her playing soccer. While stuck inside, she discovers a secret about her mother.

12. The Why Why Girl, by Mahasweta Devi (Author) and Kanyika Kini (Illustrator)

A children’s book by one of India’s most acclaimed authors, Mahasweta Devi, about a young girl in a village perplexed by why she is told she cannot do certain things because she is a girl, and from a certain social background. Text-heavy but a unique book with beautiful illustrations.

Holidays/Religious Celebrations  

13. Books about Diwali

Diwali, also known as the festival of lights, is a fall festival that is celebrated by Hindus, Sikhs, Buddhists, and Jains in different ways, and marks different significant religious occasions.

13a. Amma, Tell me about Diwali, by Bhakti Mathur

This book offers a colorful description of a Hindu family’s celebration of Diwali, including the story of Rama and Sita, as well as contemporary customs. In reading this for my child’s pre-school, I skip some pages in the middle to keep it a bit shorter for younger kids.  

13b. Diwali: A Cultural Adventure, by Sana Sood (Author), Rubina Hoda (Illustrator)

This rhyming book is a good introduction to the Hindu story of Diwali in an accessible way. The last pages have a larger perspective on the meanings of the festival.

13c. Let’s Celebrate Diwali, by Anjali Joshi (Author), Tim Palin (Illustrator)

In this book for younger children, a Hindu young girl shares her family’s Diwali traditions and learns about her classmates’ celebrations of the same holiday though they come from different religious backgrounds (Jain, Sikh, and Buddhist).

14. A Dog Named Haku: A Holiday Story from Nepal, by Margarita Engle, Amish Karanjit, Nicole Karanjit (authors), Ruth Jeyaveeran (illustrator)

Two brothers celebrate Kukur Tihar, a day to honor dogs during the Fall festival time in Nepal. In the aftermath of the Nepal earthquake, they search for a specific dog.

15. Festival of Colors, by Surishtha Sehgal and Kabir Sehgal (authors)

This book introduces the Hindu festival of Holi, where colors are thrown on friends, family and neighbors, and spring is welcomed.

16. Books about Eid

Muslims in South Asia and around the world partake in various celebrations, including Eid (literally meaning “feast”). The first marks the end of the 40-days of Ramadan (Eid Al-Fitr), and the second (Eid Al-Adha) is during the Hajj pilgrimage each year.

16a. Night of the Moon, by Hena Khan

Award-winning children’s author Hena Khan explores a Pakistani-American girl’s Eid celebrations through a discussion of its history and the traditions.

16b. Amal’s Eid, by Amy Maranville

Amal is in the 3rd grade and invites readers in to see how his family from Bangladesh celebrates the end of Ramadan with the Eid Al-Fitr festival.

16c. The Best Eid Ever, by Asma Mobin-Uddin (Author), Laura Jacobsen (Illustrator)

In this book, Aneesa misses her parents who are away on the Hajj pilgrimage. Her grandmother helps her find a special way to celebrate Eid that involves helping others.

17. Crescent Moons and Pointed Minarets: A Muslim Book of Shapes, by Hena Khan (author), Mehrdokht Amini (illustrator)

A beautifully illustrated book that takes readers through shapes and the principle components of Muslim faith, as seen through the shapes a child sees.   

18. The Truth About the Tooth, by Maria L. Denjongpa (author), Chetan Sharma (illustrator) 

A Tibetan folktale about a young boy who keeps forgetting to bring something back from his travels to Sarnath, the place where the Buddha first gave his teachings.

19. Lohri: The Bonfire Festival, by Parveen Kaur Dhillon (Author), Anantdeep Kaur (Illustrator)

This book introduces the Punjabi winter festival of Lohri (usually in January) through rhymed verses.  

20. Let's Celebrate Vaisakhi! by Ajanta Chakraborty and Vivek Kumar

This book in the Maya and Neel’s Adventure Series takes the narrators to the Punjab region of South Asia to celebrate the spring festival of Vaisakhi.

21. Mahavira: The Hero of Nonviolence, by Manoj Jain (Author), Demi (Illustrator)

In this book, the teacher Mahavira who founded the Jain religion is introduced as are the principles of nonviolence espoused by adherents to his philosophies.

Everyday Life  

22. King for a Day, by Rukhsana Khan (Author), Christiane Kromer (Illustrator)

During the kite festival of Basant in Lahore, Pakistan, Malik is trying to get his kite to fly the highest and best. Malik navigates the kite festival in his wheelchair and counters a bully who appears.

23. A Bhil Story, by Nina Sabnani (author), Sher Singh Bhil (illustrator) 

This book which explores the origin stories of the indigenous Bhil community in northern India is vividly painted and demonstrates issues of natural conservation.

24. Magical Fish, by Author Chandrakala Jagat and Illustrator Shakunlata Kushram 

Happiness has begun to leak out of the world and one old woman has a plan to bring it back. It involves finding a magical fish in a special green lake. This story is from the indigenous Gond people in central India, and the illustrator uses traditional Gond artwork in the book. A video about the book can be found here.

25. Aamu's Kawandi, by Shrujana N Shridhar

This book is about the Siddi community in South Asia (originating from East Africa and settling in the present day countries of India and Pakistan as early as 600 A.D.). Aamu, a Siddi girl, shares a story of her quilt or “kwandi” that has patchwork with scenes from around her village.

26. Chandra's Magic Light: A Story in Nepal, by Theresa Heine (Author), Judith Gueyfier (Illustrator)

Chandra and her sister learn about a solar-powered lamp and are determined to find a way to get one for their family whose home is in the Himalayan mountains in Nepal.

27. Crane Boy, by Diana Cohn (Author), Youme Landowne (Illustrator)

This book is set in the Himalayan mountain nation of Bhutan and features a boy who, alarmed at seeing fewer cranes migrating each year, decides to take action.

28. Four Feet, Two Sandals, by Karen Lynn Williams (Author), Khadra Mohammed (Author)

Set in a refugee camp in Pakistan, two girls find one sandal each donated by aid workers. In figuring out how to share the sandals, readers are introduced to the realities in the refugee camp.

29. Grandma and the Great Gourd: A Bengali Folktale, by Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni (Author), Susy Pilgrim Waters (Illustrator)

This book by renowned novelist Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni offers a retelling of a Bengali folktale about a grandmother who outwits animals that are trying to eat her as she journeys through the forest.

30. The Story and the Song, Manasi Subramaniam (Author), Ayswarya Sankaranarayanan (Illustrator)

In this Tamil folktale, stories that don’t get told and songs that don’t get sung are determined to find a way to be heard.  

31. When the Rain Comes, by Alma Fullerton (author) and Kim La Fave (illustrator)

Set in Sri Lanka, this book tells the story of a girl, Malini, and her family’s experiences during the rainy season.

32. My Chacha is Gay, by Eiynah

This book, which is a bit hard to find for purchase (though several Northern California Bay Area libraries have it), focuses on a diverse family in Pakistan doing everyday things. It features a young boy’s narration about his Chacha (paternal uncle) and his Chacha’s male partner. A video of the book can be found here.  

Universal Values:  

33. Manjhi Moves a Mountain, by Nancy Churnin (Author), Danny Popovici (Illustrator)

Manjhi uses a hammer and his sheer determination to demonstrate perseverance in creating a pathway from his poor village to a nearby village with schools, a hospital, and markets.

34. Room in your Heart, by Kunzang Choden (author)

This story of generosity is by one of Bhutan’s leading writers, and tells of a woman making room for more and more people in her home. It ends with the moral, “There will always be room in your home, as long as there is room in your heart.”

35 The Clever Boy and the Terrible, Dangerous Animal, by Idries Shah (author), Rose Mary Santiago (illustrator) 

This book tells the story of overcoming fears of unknown things/people through a Sufi folktale set in Afghanistan where a boy helps villagers see that something they fear is nothing to be feared at all.

36. Iqbal and His Ingenious Idea: How a Science Project Helps One Family and the Planet, by Elizabeth Suneby (Author), Rebecca Green (Illustrator)

It’s monsoon season in Bangladesh and Iqbal decides to problem-solve by creating a solar cooker for his science fair so that his mother won’t cough so much while cooking on an indoor open fire. This book demonstrates care for others, creativity, and innovation.

37. Chachaji’s Cup, by Uma Krishnaswami (Author), Soumya Sitaraman (Illustrator)

A story about a boy’s relationship with his great uncle who has lived through the violent partition of India and Pakistan. Neel shows his great uncle kindness and compassion through the story.

38. A Bucket of Blessings, by Kabir Sehgal (Author), Surishtha Sehgal (Author), Jing Jing Tsong (Illustrator), Maya Angelou (Afterword)

This book teaches gratitude through a folktale from India about a monkey and a peacock.

Recommendations for 10-12 and up

39. The Breadwinner, by Deborah Ellis

In this book set during the rule of the Taliban in Afghanistan, Parvana has to dress as a boy to be able to earn money for her family. This book describes difficult circumstances, but also introduces young readers to history and geopolitical relations by mentioning how the rise of the Taliban was due to support from the U.S. during the Cold War.

40. Ahimsa, Supriya Kelkar (author)

In this book set in 1942, Anjali, who is 12, is thrust into the Gandhian movement for freedom from British rule on the subcontinent when her mother decides to join in it. There are themes of caste discrimination, gender inequality, and anti-colonial struggles that get raised in this book.  

41. Ambedkar: The Fight for Justice, by Srividya Natarajan & S. Anand (Authors), Durgabai Vyam & Subhash Vyam (Illustrators), John Berger (Foreword)

In this beautifully-illustrated graphic novel, the story of Bhimrao Ambedkar is told of his facing caste discrimination in the late 1800s and early 1900s, studying law overseas in New York and London, and ultimately being an independence leader and the crafter of India’s first Constitution in 1950.

42. Step up to the Plate Maria Singh, by Uma Krishnaswami

This story is of a young girl from a Punjabi-Mexican family and set in 1945. Restrictive immigration laws in the early- to mid-1900s only allowed immigrant male workers to migrate from Punjab, resulting in marriages between Punjabi men and Mexican women in agricultural communities in California. The story is about how Maria longs to be on a softball team and the challenges facing her family.

43. Rickshaw Girl, by Mitali Perkins (Author), Jamie Hogan (Illustrator)

This story set in Bangladesh and is about a 10-year old girl, Naima, who wants to help earn money for her family despite gender norms that discourage it.  

44. The Night Diary, by Veena Hiranandani

This book is probably better for slightly older (12+) given themes of death and violence related to a girl’s story of enduring the Partition of India and Pakistan in 1947. Through letters to her deceased mother, we learn about what her and her family go through to find a new home.

45. I See the Promised Land: A Life of Martin Luther King Jr., by Arthur Flowers (Author), Manu Chitrakar (Illustrator)

 This book is not about South Asian history or culture per se, but tells the story of the life of African-American civil rights leader Martin Luther King, Jr. (and his influences from Gandhian philosophy) in a graphic novel by Indian artist Manu Chitrakar. This beautiful book presents a story known to many young people in the U.S. in a Patua art style from eastern India and Bangladesh.

46. Dear Mrs. Naidu, by Mathangi Subramanian 

This book told through the letters a young girl writes to the deceased Indian independence leader she’s named after, Sarojini Naidu, tells a story of educational inequalities and human rights in present-day India.   

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5% goes back on all orders in October and November
You can enter the code before October 1 to join early; if you are new to Good Eggs, you will get a $15 discount and be counted toward your school's $500 bonus, even if you join early.
You must use the code NIAHOUSE on your order to join the fundraiser. You will see confirmation text that reads "You're supporting Nia House Learning Center!" at checkout. 
If you use another code at checkout your order will not be counted toward the fundraiser. Once you've used the code on an order, it will stick in your basket through the fundraising period –– no need to enter it again.


This is your chance to enjoy one of Bartok’s most acclaimed works- The Miraculous Mandarin.

The Nia House Auction has two Premier Orchestra tickets to the San Francisco Symphony on Friday November 9th for Bartók’s, The Miraculous Mandarin, at Davies Symphony Hall.

Seductive and scandalous, Bartok’s score to ballet The Miraculous Mandarin left the piece banned in Germany after it’s premiere, though luckily audiences have been more lenient in later years. A tale laden with debauchery, enjoy a recital of the ballet’s passion-filled suite alongside two works inspired by very different climates in Russian history, Shostakovich’s Violin Concerto No.1 and Borodin’s Symphony No.2.

Often referred to as his greatest work, Borodin’s Symphony No.2 evokes an ancient Russia where Knights adventure - a connotation that gives it its nickname the ‘heroic’ symphony. In contrast, Shostakovich had to keep his Violin Concerto No.1 hidden from the public and the Soviet regime after his denunciation. When Stalin died in 1953, it was published and is now one of the world’s most popular pieces for piano, proving that art can endure in the face of fascism.

Thinking Tattoo? Nia House Auction Item!

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This year’s auction has some fresh items. Don’t miss them! Click here to browse.

Dustin Wengreen from Temple Tattoo has donated an hour’s worth of work to auction. He is a cool guy and an amazing artist capable of doing very intricate work (check out Stacey’s arm).

CP Shades in Mill Valley uses 100% natural and sustainable fabrics to make simple and elegant clothing in lots of colors all dyed, cut, sewn here in Northern California!

Changes Around Nia House

Welcome back, Nia House Families!

We would like to give a big thank you to all the parents that helped dig holes and assemble the monkey bars!

Over the break, Nia House endured some exciting changes! 

We have new grey paint on the old building, a bright orange sunshade, new monkey bar posts, and three chicks- one brown and two yellows. Stop by the coop to say hello to Snowball and meet Harriet, Aretha, and Maria- the new chicks! 

Thank you, Rosalie!

Nia House has been so lucky to have Rosalie fill in as a summer teacher. Rosalie first came to Nia House in 2015 as a summer intern and we all quickly knew that she was someone to keep close. Every summer since, Rosalie has spent here at Nia House, offering her warmth, playful spirit, kindness, and intuition. 

According to Kabir, "Rosalie tells us to get our hats when we go outside. She reads us books, watches the preschool during nap, and helps the kids outside." 

We wish we could keep Rosalie all year long. Alas, she is off to pursue a Masters Degree.

We are proud of you and so happy that we got a summer with you, Rosalie. Until next summer?!

Roaring 20s Soirée: Community Donations

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Get ready Nia House community for a Roaring 20's Soirée! Dress to impress in 1920s attire (or in anything, really). Live jazz music, dinner, drinks, and a very exciting Auction await you! 

We hope to keep the community component of the auctions alive. This means, you all have the chance to give your services, skills, passions, party planning, you name it... you can host a party for kids, adults, or both, teach a class, offer a service, and your Nia House friends will bid on it.

This is fun way to build community and raise money. 

Here are some examples from last year:

  • Friday Night Pizza Party
  • Tie-Dye Pizza Party
  • Salsa of the Month Club
  • Spanish Dinner Patio Party
  • Evening of Cocktails

Send an email if you have an idea or want to brainstorm one. 

Please submit all community donations by August 31st. 

Thank you, Jeff.

The Nia House community has been deeply impacted by the thoughtful Board of Directors leadership of Jeff Vincent for 7 years.

Jeff joined the Nia House family when his son Willem started in the toddler program. Having met his wife, Laurin, at her parents Montessori school in Nebraska, Jeff came to us as a believer in the Montessori method. Both Willem and Evelyn started Nia House with former toddler teacher, Jeanie Maier, before her retirement. The entire Vincent family came to celebrate Jeanie's retirement after 32 years of service to Nia House, as pictured below. 

Jeff's board service began just as the program expansion visioning commenced. With an academic background in community development and school facility infrastructure planning, and an advocate for Montessori, plus commitment to educational equity, and belief in Nia House, Jeff was a natural leader and an amazing support to the program during a challenging and exciting time of Nia House development. 

As glamorous as Jeff's Board Service might sound- the countless hours of envisioning, planning, fundraising, and welcoming in new members of the community, there was some real roll-up-your-sleeves-work. Jeff always showed up. Jeff is reliable, smart, committed, sensitive and funny. He advocates for the staff, is a source of trusted counsel, and a true friend. 

On behalf of the entire Nia House community, thank you Jeff for the love you've given this to community. You, Laurin, Willem, and Evelyn are family here and are expected to return often, keep in touch, and know how loved and appreciated you are here at Nia House. 

FOR SMALL HANDS: Toys for Learning. Toys for Life.


Nia House families can place an order with for small hands and Nia House will gain credit for classroom materials!

Many of the materials we use at Nia House are from for small hands- child-size items, developmentally appropriate toys, and fun games. This is a great place to find birthday and holiday gifts or useful tools for the home. 

There are two ways to participate:

  1. Place an individual order using Nia House's school customer number: 116006
  2. Place a group order (better for Nia House!) by FRIDAY, OCTOBER 19th. If we collectively place an order of $500 we get free shipping! 

Catalogues will be available soon. Visit to check out the beautiful materials. 

Transcendent Iconography


In her hours away from Nia House, our very own, Nicole Dixon (Preschool North teacher), is busy making mixed media masterpieces. This summer she is gearing up to be in many shows. We will keep you posted. The first one is in effect! 

Transcendent Iconography

Transcendent Iconography represents Nicole Dixon’s search for healing and her desire to shift the paradigm of how we choose to identify symbols of power, resilience, and excellence from within.

Artist Reception
Tuesday, July 31, 2018
12:00 to 1:30 pm

Exhibit runs from July 3 to August 17, 2018

Exhibit is open to the public:
Weekdays from 8:00 am - 4:30 pm

EBMUD Oakland Administration Building, 2nd floor
375 11th Street, Oakland, CA 94607

Family Work Day

Saturday, August 11th from 9-1pm

Parents and children are invited to come for a fun work day at Nia House. Most work days are parent only events. This work day is one where the children can pitch in (the nature of the tasks are best suited for preschoolers).



We will fill the sandboxes, start our fall garden, and do some general cleaning. We will work from 9-11:30, pause for a short picnic (bring a lunch) on the grass, and finish up the work from noon-1pm.

To honor our community involvement, Disneyland will give Nia House 5 tickets for our fall fundraiser auction!

We can host up to 20 people. Parents must accompany their child.

Please email Stacey if you plan to attend & let me know how many people from your family will participate.

Summer Welcome!

We'd like to introduce you to the families joining our community this summer! You may have caught them in the newsletter, if not, familiarize yourself with these new faces and give them a warm Nia House welcome when you see them around!

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Wishing our friends farewell...

Summer time is here. This is the season we start our goodbyes as friends prepare to head to 1st grade, kindergarten, move away, or embark on new beginnings.

We are so thankful for the time we've spent with all of these friends at Nia House. 

Fun doesn't cost much: Great ideas for free & low cost family fun!

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photo from El Cerrito Splash Park

Summer time is just about here. Pearly has some ideas for family fun that won't break the bank.  

Of course, there’ll be days you want to bring your child to watch a theatre performance, or go on a cruise ship vacation. But who doesn’t? Even after the kids are here, there are ways to have a fantastic weekend outing that costs little to no money at all!

Here are some:

Here are some places with free or low-cost admission:

  • Lake Merritt - best for botanical gardens, bird and people watching

  • Tilden Park - best for hikes, walks, picnics, animal-feeding, and nature-play

  • Berkeley Marina - best for kite flying, picnicking, nature-play, bike riding

  • Redwood Regional Park - best for hiking, nature-play, bike riding

  • Point Isabel - best for walks, dogs welcome, picnicking

  • Berkeley Adventure Playground - best for slightly older kids. They’ll need to “find” screws and nails on-site to exchange for saws and other tools to “build up the playground. Children 4 and younger must be accompanied by an adult.

  • Bay Model - best for science-lovers, check out the working hydraulic model of the San Francisco Bay area.

  • Habitot Children’s Museum - $12 children & adults

  • Rain or Shine - $16 first child, $8 sibling, $4 for adults

  • The Rec Room - $10 for first child, $8 sibling, infants under 6 months free

  • Kids Gym Berkeley - $15 for first child, $12 sibling, 5-visit pass for $60

  • Fairyland (Oakland) - $10 per child or adult

  • Jumpity Bumpity (Hayward) - $10 per child (Mon to Fri daypass), $11 (1 hr) - $16 (2 hrs) on weekends

  • Mel’s Play Place (Castro Valley) - $9 per child

  • High Scores Arcade (Alameda) - $5 per hour minimum donation

  • El Cerrito Splash Park - $3 per person

If weather permits, get outdoors!

If the weather is “nice” can be pretty relative. Well, if it’s sunny, go on a walk with the kids, and engage the environment with them. Check out what lives under stones, lives in creeks, and sail some fallen leaves down a stream.

To keep your children on their toes, challenge them to collect 10 different types of leaves, or 20, or 30! You can use them to make art imprints later, or simply have them paste them in a book so you check find out unique properties of these leaves and plants later on. There’s always an opportunity to learn about the veins in leaves, chlorophyll, shapes, colors and textures.

If your child is a bug-lover, bring a magnifying glass, or pick one up for cheap from a toy store.

If you have an old digital camera lying around, plug it in, charge it up, and let your kid snap away while on the walk! If our 2-year-old can take pictures, so can yours! Just try to get them a neck strap so the camera stays safe even if it slips out of their little grips.

Check out your local vivarium, pet store, or rescue shelter.

If your kid is an animal lover, they’ll love the vivarium or pet store. We often bring out kid there to satiate her animal-lovin’ without having to get a pet. So far, she’s gotten to hold some lizards, touch a couple of snakes, and even watch one mess with a mouse for lunch. She’s seen snakes molt, and learned about their skins, watched turtles push other turtles off branches for the best sunbathing spot, and seen fighting fish laze around.

Plan for free days at museums, or get a library card.

Most museums have free days, or nights, but if those don’t work for you and your family, check out tie Discover & Go program, a nationally recognized museum pass program. As long as you have a library card, whether it’s from Sacramento, San Francisco, Oakland, Berkeley, or Monterey, you actually have free or discounted access to hundreds of places all around the bay area. Check this site to learn more, but it’s time to start learning more about cartoon art, space and science, Japanese-American history, attend a family concert or simply take a dip in a swimming pool!

Plan a get-together!

Get involved with your neighbors and reach out to other parents! Find a Facebook group in your neighborhood for parents, or create one. Get on your neighborhood, say hello, introduce your family, and invite them to a potluck picnic at a nearby park, or plan a street party!

Got a vehicle? Check out the Jelly Belly Factory Tour!

The California Visitor Center is located at 1 Jelly Belly Lane in Fairfield. They offer regular free tours, and the best (or worst) thing is all visitors get a little bag of jelly belly’s for free.