The closing component of the meeting focussed on the different outcomes of praise versus acknowledgement. Do we want children who seek peer, parental, or teacher approval before taking a risk or trying something new? Do we want children to acquire new skills for our benefit? To make art for us? Likely not. According to Alfie Kohn, common compliments children hear - "Your are so smart", "Great job," "Your painting is amazing", can create a reliance on praise, steal a child's pleasure, and result in reduced achievement.
We want children to create, learn, grow and take risks because they are developing a love of learning and are feeding their interests! To ensure this, it is important to know that praise seldom meets the developmental needs of young children. Children need real, objective feedback on how they attained their success. Please read the attached articles for a more thorough exploration on the damaging impacts of praise and aspirations for perfection.
Can we celebrate our children's successes? Yes! Let's be sincere, let them relish in their own feelings of pride, and provide them with specific feedback on how their efforts impacted their success.
Resources:
How Can We Strengthen Children's Self-Esteem? By Lilian Katz
The Power (and Peril) of Praising Your Kids By Po Bronson
Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!" By Alfie Kohn
Ten Ways to Build Your Child's Self Esteem By Sarah Henry